The Agreeable Advisor

Can I be honest for a second?

I like it when people like me.

And when they agree with me.

I have a feeling I’m not the only one.

When I go to someone for advice, sometimes what I’m most hoping is that they’ll all me I’m right. (I’ll also accept being told I’m brilliant if they prefer).

I guess I’m still vulnerable to insecurity.

Of course I do really want honest feedback. I know it help me grow, learn, and improve. And I am blessed with plenty of insightful, sincere people who will tell me when I can and should do better.

I hope you are too.

I have the privilege of being trusted by dozens of charity leaders across Canada and beyond to give input as they lead and live.

I take that responsibility seriously. Earning and maintaining trust, continually developing my skills and knowledge base, and being clear about the limits of my understanding and expertise are commitments I make to serve my clients well.

And serving them well sometimes means I have to tell them I think they’ve made a mistake, misunderstood a situation, or failed to live up to their values.

It’s not my favourite part of my job, but it is essential for me to truly provide meaningful value. If all I do is agree with my clients I am shortchanging them.

I have to know the leaders I serve well enough to be able to discern when and how to encourage, when and how to challenge, and when and how to confront if I really think it’s necessary. If you lead, you need to do the same for the people in your organization.

I get it wrong sometimes; and in my case that’s usually when I don’t challenge enough. I know others who tend to make their mistakes by not giving enough support and affirmation. I know that there are leaders who prefer a tougher style than mine.

Whatever your natural inclination, if you are seeking advice you need to be sure you are getting the hard truths alongside the encouragement. And if you are giving advice, you need to be willing to tell the truth with grace, even when it may hurt.

An advisor who always agrees is one who can’t be trusted.

Contact me if I can be helpful to you and/or your organization.

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